Shortly after I last wrote I went to CB and brought Jami home with me to live. It was wonderful to have her here finally but I only got to have her for a few days and I got pulled over for a missing front license plate and they asked for Jami's ID and arrested her for Nonpayment of Child Support and two old warrants in Sarpy County, Driving Under Suspension and Child Abuse from when Michelle was born. I am devastated. I think a lot about the expression "prostrate with grief" because I definitely have been since they drove off with her. It has been a little over a week now I think, I lose track of time, it is all a blur of pain. I hurt so badly for her it is hard to breathe sometimes. They refused to give her Methadone so she has had to go through the horrifying withdrawals in there, one of the most inhumane jails I know of. I have been to visit her twice and have been able to keep her supplied with the money for necessities so far. I have never been this sad about her being arrested before, I think because she was doing so good and I was so proud of how she was doing and was loving having her here with me so very much, and because she is pregnant and I know she wants this baby to make it so very very much. She has been able to hear the baby's heartbeat twice since her arrest when seeing the jail nurse. She was spotting a little a couple of days ago but it stopped.
She is terribly sad, too, and cries more than she ever has in jail before for many of the same reasons that I cry for her. She also deals with missing Kirk who she had just been able to talk to on the phone regularly since she had been staying here and now that is lost to her, too. I mailed her a picture of Kirk and her today that I hope she gets Monday.
After Jami had been in jail a few days I realized I was sick as well as grieving and I am on antibiotics for a urinary tract infection now and feel somewhat better. The fever is gone but the terrible feeling in my heart and gut haven't let up much. It was a little better last night, I think because I slept with Jessalynn cuddled to me. But the darkness descended as soon as I woke this morning and almost seems worse than ever. Maybe because it is also my birthday today. I didn't celebrate the day at all. Everyone wished me a happy birthday and Jenise and Robbie gave me a beautiful card. Jessalynn and Jeremy brought me a birthday hat statue. That is about all the celebrating I can take for now. I'll throw a party when I get Jami back.
We have no clue how long Jami will be in jail. Sarpy county is notorious for being very harsh. Here in Douglas County a person gets a ticket and a small fine for first offense shoplifting. A woman in with Jami got sentenced two months for first offense shop lifting in Sarpy last week. I spoke to her public defender and am supposed to call him back this week after he has all of her paperwork and can discuss what might happen to her. Jami says that Nonpayment of Child Support is an automatic 90 days in Sarpy County and then you still have to pay the back child support. And keep up with the ongoing.
I have to stop for now. I have Jessalynn, Robbie and Jenise here tonight as usual. Jami was going to go spend the night with Jeanette tonight while I had all of the kids and have a sister slumber party. Jami was so excited about it and now is so sad to miss out on it.
I have tired cranky kids here tonight. Time to go liven them up or put them to bed.
She is terribly sad, too, and cries more than she ever has in jail before for many of the same reasons that I cry for her. She also deals with missing Kirk who she had just been able to talk to on the phone regularly since she had been staying here and now that is lost to her, too. I mailed her a picture of Kirk and her today that I hope she gets Monday.
After Jami had been in jail a few days I realized I was sick as well as grieving and I am on antibiotics for a urinary tract infection now and feel somewhat better. The fever is gone but the terrible feeling in my heart and gut haven't let up much. It was a little better last night, I think because I slept with Jessalynn cuddled to me. But the darkness descended as soon as I woke this morning and almost seems worse than ever. Maybe because it is also my birthday today. I didn't celebrate the day at all. Everyone wished me a happy birthday and Jenise and Robbie gave me a beautiful card. Jessalynn and Jeremy brought me a birthday hat statue. That is about all the celebrating I can take for now. I'll throw a party when I get Jami back.
We have no clue how long Jami will be in jail. Sarpy county is notorious for being very harsh. Here in Douglas County a person gets a ticket and a small fine for first offense shoplifting. A woman in with Jami got sentenced two months for first offense shop lifting in Sarpy last week. I spoke to her public defender and am supposed to call him back this week after he has all of her paperwork and can discuss what might happen to her. Jami says that Nonpayment of Child Support is an automatic 90 days in Sarpy County and then you still have to pay the back child support. And keep up with the ongoing.
I have to stop for now. I have Jessalynn, Robbie and Jenise here tonight as usual. Jami was going to go spend the night with Jeanette tonight while I had all of the kids and have a sister slumber party. Jami was so excited about it and now is so sad to miss out on it.
I have tired cranky kids here tonight. Time to go liven them up or put them to bed.
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