Money(un)wise

I am realizing a huge regret, my attitude towards money. I think it started after my father died when my mother became Head of the Household and it became a huge part of my rebellion against her. Money was so important to her which is understandable with her living through WWII in Japan. She didn't talk a lot about her family but often mentioned how her father had saved from a meager income to put his 4 daughters through college. I don't think she really had any idea of the poverty my father came from. Americans probably all seemed well off, the Great American Dream etc. I remember being poor when I was very young even at one point living in Aunt Johnny's basement.  Then Daddy made his fake college resume and began working as an engineer first at Vandenberg AFB and then NASA when the call for all Geeks went out to put man on the moon. When we moved to Houston he bought his first home,  a brand new 4 bedroom ranch style house in Sagemont. He couldn't get homeowners insurance because he had Childhood Arthritis.  I remember a lot of talk about that and then he died at 38 years old 2 years later. Mom had to sell the big house and bought a much smaller one in the Beverly Hills subdivision which is an old mostly middle class area and Mom had to get a job. Her pharmaceutical degree was barely acknowledged in the US so she started with a fairly menial job at Merit Pharmaceutical. 

My older brothers were a big influence on my attitude towards Mom and her attitude towards money. We accused her of only caring about money and there was some truth to that but, again, she definitely had her reasons to be the way she was. 

The stupid part I am realizing is how I let it effect my whole life and the life of my family.  I took a firm stand against the love of money very young and then embraced it for a life of poverty.  WHY? I've always been a proud Giving Person helping everyone and taking in almost anyone in need no mater how little I had. 

Not I am 65 and live in a dump in the ghetto, raising kids here! and it looks like every except Jessalynn is following my lead. How do I change/fix this?? Can I???